One of our many internet friends wrote to us with an impassioned plea:
Could you or Plumcake take on the arduous challenge of swimsuits for big girls? I love the beach, and once I get there I’ve learned to sort of forget that I am in fact wearing one, but I don’t think there’s a single thing that makes me feel unattractive and very un-fabulous than trying on swimsuit after swimsuit, especially if there is someone else in the dressing room shaped so as to remind me that all of these garments were certainly not designed with someone like me in mind. I’d love any insight you may have into what I am sure is a problem for lots of us.
The first thing that Francesca wants to say in response is good for you for putting aside your self-consciousness at the beach itself. As Nancy Sinatra would say, the beach is made for walkin’ . . . right into the sand and surf, with nary a care about our lumpy-squishies. When God created the beach, it was his (her?) gift to ALL of us. The beach is the great leveler, with salty air for us all. Especially when we are there with people who love us and want us to have a great time. And you don’t know anyone else there, so who gives a darn what they might be thinking?
Which brings me to an important point about being self-conscious, such as in a dressing room where one might feel ashamed to undress. I would like to introduce you to the concept of “self-ocentricism.” This is the belief that each person in the world is way more wrapped up in their own concerns than in yours. Just as you are, perhaps, obsessing over your own imperfect parts and feeling embarrassed, the other lady in the dressing room is thinking about her issues, and really not paying any attention to you. When we women obsess over whether our hair or makeup or fat is all in the right place, we forget that no one else cares about our looks as they do about their own, just as we are obsessing about our own looks, not someone else’s.
Understanding self-ocentricism takes a lot of the pressure off.
However! We still want to look superfantastic, for ourselves. And so I turn you over to our friends at Swimsuits for All, who have created a “shop by shape” feature for swimsuits (click here and scroll down), similar to the “myShape” feature at Igigi.
For Pears, I love this one-piece with the pretty sash showing just in the front:
SwimSuitsforAll has many wonderful designs for many wonderful shapes, through size 34W.