The Big Question
Francesca and Plumcake want to know:
If you could pass on one piece of advice to a younger big girl, what would it be?
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August 13, 2007
[...] Reading the responses to our Big Question brought tears to my eyes. Indeed, if only Francesca had known then what she knows now . . . [...]
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August 14, 2007
[...] August 14, 2007 at 9:29 pm · Filed under Body Image, Social Issues, Exercise, Fashion, Beauty Last week, Francesca and Plumcake at Manolo for the Big Girl asked their readers, “If you could pass on one piece of advice to a younger big girl, what would it be?” [...]
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September 18, 2007
[...] If you could pass on one piece of advice to a younger big girl, what would it be? [...]
Learn to love yourself just the way you are. That love will become the self-confidence that reminds you that you are smart and fabulous in most any situation.
Good Golly- I really wish I had heard all of this when I was a kid. WOW!!
Single best piece of advice- Be you, at all times, at all places and with all people. You know when you aren’t being you- its when you are listening to all of the other noise and ignoring that little voice in your heart- that little voice is the real you and it needs to be heard. Let it speak- you will like what it has to say. Those that don’t like who you really are can pound sand. When you are true to yourself you will always glow.
Oh– And a new lipstick or a new pair of shoes can often equal a new lease on life!
‘Kimocean Says:
August 11th, 2007 at 1:49 pm
Let your big personality shine. You are not too big, too much, too loud or too anything. You are amazing and sometimes it takes a bigger body to handle all that superfantasticness! ‘
Wow – what a nice way to look at this – needing a bigger container to hold all the superfantasticness!
Cheers!
Thanks g-dog. It’s taken me 31 years to figure that one out but I do like it ;-) All of the advice here is really wonderful and I too wish I’d heard it when I was a bit younger!
Shoes seem to always fit! :)
If you are clothes shopping with your friends who are not large (12+), you should probably stop. Just going into Ambercrombie, Hollister, BR, Wet Seal when I was young was enough to make me feel like shit for weeks. Unless the person is a best friend and it is a wedding/funeral/largelifeevent, let them clothes shop on their own. I always ended up being dragged into stores where nothing fit me by “friends” who would refuse to shop at Lane Bryant or Torrid or look bored and uncomfortable the whole time we were there. If they constantly drag you into stores where they *know* nothing fits you, then they are not your friends and you are better off without them. They just want to pressure you into buying skinny clothes (“see you’re not fat!” or “if you just loose a few pounds these jeans will fit fine!”) that will be a waste of money and will make you feel even worse when you get home.
And whomever said avoid bright colors and prints, blarg on you. My wardrobe is almost ENTIRELY comprised of bright colors and prints (plus versitile black). Bright colors and prints are not just for skinny girls and they usually look BETTER on me then my size 8 friends.
Kimocean and others – so true re: wishing I had learned to accept myself at a much younger age – I am still working on it! I would have spent my younger days feeling like the pearl in the oyster, and not the ugly grain of sand! Ah well …
As a younger big girl (just turned 17 this week), I thank you all.
Take up space. Don’t buy into the pressure to be small, because that’s just one more tactic our culture uses against women to keep us docile and quiet. Take up space and be proud of the fact that you take up space.
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