Comments on: The Big Question http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/ Fashion, Lifestyle, and Humor for the Plus Sized Woman. Sun, 07 Sep 2008 02:46:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Rebecca http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-769 Rebecca Sat, 01 Sep 2007 05:47:15 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-769 As for the haircut... I go to a salon which charges $60 a cut, and I make about 32,000 a year, but it is TOTALLY worth it. I had the same long haircut for the past 12 years, then ventured into uncharted waters to cut it to about bra length. Then I moved to the city and realized I needed an urban cut that would look professional and work in any weather (I live in Chicago). I have to sacrifice to get my hair cut, but my stylist is FABULOUS! I saw some haircuts that she gave friends, walked in the salon, told her my 3 criteria (has to look good after being blown in the wind, has to be easy to maintain--10 min or less in the bathroom, and it has to look good when I sweat--which is all the time in the summer). She chopped off 8 inches, did some funky layering that I didn't really understand, and now I get more compliments on my hair from men and women than ever before! I have sexy librarian purple plastic glasses and they are complimented by the new do. Your hair is an intense statement of who you are and if you are going to make a big change, it is worth it to invest in a truly excellent stylist. So that is my two cents:-) And I would say that the thing that I have put off is dancing more... I have recently lost some weight without any real intention and dancing has become much more attractive and possible. Which means more weight will probably be coming off in the near future. What a lovely upward spiral! As for the haircut… I go to a salon which charges $60 a cut, and I make about 32,000 a year, but it is TOTALLY worth it. I had the same long haircut for the past 12 years, then ventured into uncharted waters to cut it to about bra length. Then I moved to the city and realized I needed an urban cut that would look professional and work in any weather (I live in Chicago). I have to sacrifice to get my hair cut, but my stylist is FABULOUS! I saw some haircuts that she gave friends, walked in the salon, told her my 3 criteria (has to look good after being blown in the wind, has to be easy to maintain–10 min or less in the bathroom, and it has to look good when I sweat–which is all the time in the summer). She chopped off 8 inches, did some funky layering that I didn’t really understand, and now I get more compliments on my hair from men and women than ever before! I have sexy librarian purple plastic glasses and they are complimented by the new do. Your hair is an intense statement of who you are and if you are going to make a big change, it is worth it to invest in a truly excellent stylist.

So that is my two cents:-) And I would say that the thing that I have put off is dancing more… I have recently lost some weight without any real intention and dancing has become much more attractive and possible. Which means more weight will probably be coming off in the near future. What a lovely upward spiral!

]]> By: JayKay http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-765 JayKay Fri, 31 Aug 2007 18:24:02 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-765 So, here's the thing about hair: it grows back. If you get a cut that's not exactly what you were hoping for, give it a month or so. I recently got a long A-line that, at first, made my face look more round. But its been about two weeks and the longest layers have grown and look FABULOUS. It can be hard to look at yourself with a haircut that's outside of your comfort zone, but sometimes change is a really good thing and who knows, you might just love your new style! I say GO FOR IT, GIRL! Rock your new cut! And as for me, for some reason, I am waiting to meet the man I have been talking to online until I drop at least 10 more pounds. Why, I have no idea. I know he'd be happy with whatever I look like...and, like most everyone else, I am my own harshest critic. So, here’s the thing about hair: it grows back. If you get a cut that’s not exactly what you were hoping for, give it a month or so. I recently got a long A-line that, at first, made my face look more round. But its been about two weeks and the longest layers have grown and look FABULOUS. It can be hard to look at yourself with a haircut that’s outside of your comfort zone, but sometimes change is a really good thing and who knows, you might just love your new style! I say GO FOR IT, GIRL! Rock your new cut!

And as for me, for some reason, I am waiting to meet the man I have been talking to online until I drop at least 10 more pounds. Why, I have no idea. I know he’d be happy with whatever I look like…and, like most everyone else, I am my own harshest critic.

]]> By: Sara http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-763 Sara Fri, 31 Aug 2007 16:28:44 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-763 That's a really pretty haircut! I have funky glasses and am a fan of the Nicole Ritchie-esque sunglasses myself. The bangs like that make you all mysterious and sexy librarian with the glasses. One place that will give good hair is Toni and Guy. A few years ago my stylist got sick and had to be in the hospital for a while, and I need a haircut. A friend who shared the stylist said she was going to try T&G as an interim thing. Off we went, taking pot luck. My Megan is beyond super fantastic. All my friends have moved over to her. The friend I went with has moved and had good luck at the T&G's in her new cities. I think the starter price is in the $40-45 range, and it's more if your stylist is one of the ones who teaches the other stylists. That’s a really pretty haircut! I have funky glasses and am a fan of the Nicole Ritchie-esque sunglasses myself. The bangs like that make you all mysterious and sexy librarian with the glasses.

One place that will give good hair is Toni and Guy. A few years ago my stylist got sick and had to be in the hospital for a while, and I need a haircut. A friend who shared the stylist said she was going to try T&G as an interim thing. Off we went, taking pot luck. My Megan is beyond super fantastic. All my friends have moved over to her. The friend I went with has moved and had good luck at the T&G’s in her new cities. I think the starter price is in the $40-45 range, and it’s more if your stylist is one of the ones who teaches the other stylists.

]]> By: Helene of Troy http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-753 Helene of Troy Fri, 31 Aug 2007 13:22:12 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-753 As a response to everyone who's responded to me: I don't really want *short* hair (boy-short, as Jezebella calls it). And I'm not a great candidate for Locks of Love, since my hair is color-treated and extremely fine. I have found some styles I like, but I haven't been able to convince myself that I wouldn't regret then after a week. For example, something like this: http://www.hairresources.com/images/sce/longwithbangs.jpg (can I do html links here?) seems a possibility, although not a short. I would probably cut off about a foot, leaving my hair to stop at about my bra line. The other factor is that I wear glasses, which are quite funky. I love their big, plastic, chunky selves and don't want to upstage them. My husband has been trying to find me a hairdresser out of the mainstream (who won't charge me an arm and a leg), but so far no luck. As a response to everyone who’s responded to me:
I don’t really want *short* hair (boy-short, as Jezebella calls it). And I’m not a great candidate for Locks of Love, since my hair is color-treated and extremely fine. I have found some styles I like, but I haven’t been able to convince myself that I wouldn’t regret then after a week. For example, something like this: http://www.hairresources.com/images/sce/longwithbangs.jpg (can I do html links here?) seems a possibility, although not a short. I would probably cut off about a foot, leaving my hair to stop at about my bra line.
The other factor is that I wear glasses, which are quite funky. I love their big, plastic, chunky selves and don’t want to upstage them. My husband has been trying to find me a hairdresser out of the mainstream (who won’t charge me an arm and a leg), but so far no luck.

]]> By: Sara http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-752 Sara Fri, 31 Aug 2007 06:29:21 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-752 Helene of Troy, you go get yourself a fabulous haircut this very weekend! Stop women on the street if you like their hair. Having everything pulled back into a bun will make your face look far rounder than some volume and interest up top ever will. You deserve beautiful, sexy, fun hair that you enjoy wearing--not a style born out of frustration! And in answer to the question? Everything I really want. I smash down the possibility of love all the time, knowing that they'll reject me once they realize I'm not a size four. I do this as if the guys don't have eyes and we haven't been seeing each other and they haven't been saying nice things. I'm such a lame scaredycat sometimes. Gah! Then there are the fun things like bikes and trying to wakeboard, and finally, actually believing I deserve everything I have and want. For some reason, I have no problem putting off fashion... Helene of Troy, you go get yourself a fabulous haircut this very weekend! Stop women on the street if you like their hair. Having everything pulled back into a bun will make your face look far rounder than some volume and interest up top ever will. You deserve beautiful, sexy, fun hair that you enjoy wearing–not a style born out of frustration!

And in answer to the question? Everything I really want. I smash down the possibility of love all the time, knowing that they’ll reject me once they realize I’m not a size four. I do this as if the guys don’t have eyes and we haven’t been seeing each other and they haven’t been saying nice things. I’m such a lame scaredycat sometimes. Gah! Then there are the fun things like bikes and trying to wakeboard, and finally, actually believing I deserve everything I have and want. For some reason, I have no problem putting off fashion…

]]> By: Elina http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-751 Elina Fri, 31 Aug 2007 04:34:32 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-751 1. Get more tattoos. The ones I have are on parts of my body not prone to expanding or contracting with weight gain or loss, but I'm going to have to venture out from those comfort zones if I want to keep decorating my body with symbolism, while still staying within "work friendly" guidelines. I'm just afraid that one day I'll wake up weighing an extra 25 pounds (that's how it feels like this last 25 pounds got added on!), and my beautiful artwork will be distorted or shot through with stretch marks. 2. Have a baby. While I may be the proud owner of child-bearing hips, I know that child-delivering and child-raising are easier on a body that is fit and healthy. Since I feel neither fit nor healthy at the moment, I keep telling myself that getting pregnant is going to have to wait until I reach those states. Using this excuse, of course, keeps me from having to confront all the OTHER reasons I don't feel ready to have a baby yet - how conveeeenient! 1. Get more tattoos. The ones I have are on parts of my body not prone to expanding or contracting with weight gain or loss, but I’m going to have to venture out from those comfort zones if I want to keep decorating my body with symbolism, while still staying within “work friendly” guidelines. I’m just afraid that one day I’ll wake up weighing an extra 25 pounds (that’s how it feels like this last 25 pounds got added on!), and my beautiful artwork will be distorted or shot through with stretch marks.

2. Have a baby. While I may be the proud owner of child-bearing hips, I know that child-delivering and child-raising are easier on a body that is fit and healthy. Since I feel neither fit nor healthy at the moment, I keep telling myself that getting pregnant is going to have to wait until I reach those states. Using this excuse, of course, keeps me from having to confront all the OTHER reasons I don’t feel ready to have a baby yet - how conveeeenient!

]]> By: ginag http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-749 ginag Fri, 31 Aug 2007 02:34:45 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-749 1)a.Wear a bathing suit. b.Wear lingerie for my husband. c.Have sex on top (hey, you asked!) 2) because if I wore a bathing suit now, I'd just cover it up with shorts or a sarong or something, and what would be the point? b: I think he'd change his "I don't like lingerie" tune if I looked more like the video chicks. c. um..I think it's pretty obvious why. 1)a.Wear a bathing suit. b.Wear lingerie for my husband. c.Have sex on top (hey, you asked!)
2) because if I wore a bathing suit now, I’d just cover it up with shorts or a sarong or something, and what would be the point? b: I think he’d change his “I don’t like lingerie” tune if I looked more like the video chicks. c. um..I think it’s pretty obvious why.

]]> By: Abigail http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-747 Abigail Thu, 30 Aug 2007 23:07:01 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-747 Wear jeans. Except now, with Lane Bryant's new Right Fit jeans, I don't have to wait! They accommodate my big pear body quite nicely. I think waiting to do "X" until I was thinner was something I said goodbye to along with my thirties and I'm much better of for it. Everyone should know, if they don't already, that IGIGI is having a big sale! http://www.igigi.com/ Wear jeans. Except now, with Lane Bryant’s new Right Fit jeans, I don’t have to wait! They accommodate my big pear body quite nicely. I think waiting to do “X” until I was thinner was something I said goodbye to along with my thirties and I’m much better of for it.

Everyone should know, if they don’t already, that IGIGI is having a big sale!

http://www.igigi.com/

]]> By: rachel http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-745 rachel Thu, 30 Aug 2007 22:38:07 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-745 I had a breast reduction this year and at my heaviest weight ever. I am happier than I have ever been with my body (still heavy, but I can move now). I too thought that my personality was tied in with my breasts and have been pleasantly surprised to learn that it wasn't. I urge anyone considering it at any weight to talk to your doctor. I had a breast reduction this year and at my heaviest weight ever. I am happier than I have ever been with my body (still heavy, but I can move now). I too thought that my personality was tied in with my breasts and have been pleasantly surprised to learn that it wasn’t. I urge anyone considering it at any weight to talk to your doctor.

]]> By: Linmayu http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-744 Linmayu Thu, 30 Aug 2007 21:04:39 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/08/30/the-big-question-4/#comment-744 The only thing I'm waiting on is to go have some FABULOUS naked pictures of myself taken, which no one but me will ever see. Just something to look back on when I'm 85 and say "Damn, I used to be HOT!" Yeah, I should probably do it now. By the time I lose the weight, my boobs will probably sag... The only thing I’m waiting on is to go have some FABULOUS naked pictures of myself taken, which no one but me will ever see. Just something to look back on when I’m 85 and say “Damn, I used to be HOT!”

Yeah, I should probably do it now. By the time I lose the weight, my boobs will probably sag…

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