Comments on: The Big Question: Don’t Tell Your Mother http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/ Fashion, Lifestyle, and Humor for the Plus Sized Woman. Wed, 23 May 2012 22:52:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: knitalisa http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2357 knitalisa Sun, 28 Oct 2007 14:40:57 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2357 Advice-giver: You shouldn't act so smart. Boys don't like it. Lisa: I don't "act." I actually am that smart and I refuse to dumb myself down to make anyone more comfortable. Lori C.: A good friend of mine gave me the same advice and a copy of "The Rules." I told her that if I acted like I didn't want to go out with someone, that they were going to take me at my word and stop trying. I think playing "hard to get" only works for really insanely beautiful, model-thin women. Advice-giver: You shouldn’t act so smart. Boys don’t like it.
Lisa: I don’t “act.” I actually am that smart and I refuse to dumb myself down to make anyone more comfortable.

Lori C.: A good friend of mine gave me the same advice and a copy of “The Rules.” I told her that if I acted like I didn’t want to go out with someone, that they were going to take me at my word and stop trying. I think playing “hard to get” only works for really insanely beautiful, model-thin women.

]]> By: debutaunt http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2349 debutaunt Sun, 28 Oct 2007 07:40:47 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2349 Take the job with Enron. (I didn't. I took the other job I got offered that week) Take the job with Enron.

(I didn’t. I took the other job I got offered that week)

]]> By: Chartreuse http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2345 Chartreuse Sat, 27 Oct 2007 22:38:52 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2345 "Fat people shouldn't swim." From my mother who was presumably trying to protect me from teasing, as well as from the general culture of not revealing fat bodies. I rediscovered swimming recently and it feels heavenly. For anyone else too self-conscious of their fat body to feel comfortable swimming, I highly recommend Junonia's swim t-shirts and shorts. They are a good bridge to trying swimming again after many years of being too self-conscious. “Fat people shouldn’t swim.” From my mother who was presumably trying to protect me from teasing, as well as from the general culture of not revealing fat bodies. I rediscovered swimming recently and it feels heavenly. For anyone else too self-conscious of their fat body to feel comfortable swimming, I highly recommend Junonia’s swim t-shirts and shorts. They are a good bridge to trying swimming again after many years of being too self-conscious.

]]> By: Lori C. http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2330 Lori C. Sat, 27 Oct 2007 16:38:10 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2330 "Play hard to get." From my sister who, god love her, knows nothing about getting into a healthy relationship. While I wasn't looking for anything when I met him, I knew he wasn't the type of guy to play games or to want to be played with. Four years later and we've been married a year. My sister & my mother are always reminding me that good, nice guys like him don't come around everyday, so hold on to him. This is advice I'll listen to. “Play hard to get.” From my sister who, god love her, knows nothing about getting into a healthy relationship. While I wasn’t looking for anything when I met him, I knew he wasn’t the type of guy to play games or to want to be played with. Four years later and we’ve been married a year. My sister & my mother are always reminding me that good, nice guys like him don’t come around everyday, so hold on to him. This is advice I’ll listen to.

]]> By: dangermouse http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2292 dangermouse Fri, 26 Oct 2007 15:02:37 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2292 My worst piece of advice always centers around how I should be happy settling for something that makes me miserable because either I'm worthless or people in general are worthless. Fortunately, I always held out hope that my family & friends were wrong, and kept pursuing what I wanted anyway. Now, I'm happy, about to complete my JD/LLM, married to a great guy, raising healthy kids, and living in a beautiful place with new friends (& far away from the negative nay-sayers I grew up around). Just goes to show what I firmly believe: Fat chicks are the ULTIMATE rebels! Thank G*D. My worst piece of advice always centers around how I should be happy settling for something that makes me miserable because either I’m worthless or people in general are worthless. Fortunately, I always held out hope that my family & friends were wrong, and kept pursuing what I wanted anyway.

Now, I’m happy, about to complete my JD/LLM, married to a great guy, raising healthy kids, and living in a beautiful place with new friends (& far away from the negative nay-sayers I grew up around).

Just goes to show what I firmly believe: Fat chicks are the ULTIMATE rebels!

Thank G*D.

]]> By: dengermouse http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2291 dengermouse Fri, 26 Oct 2007 14:54:53 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2291 atty04: I'm a JD/LLM in Taxation student, too! Welcome to the club -- I bet you'll love it & congrats about following your idea of success :) atty04: I’m a JD/LLM in Taxation student, too! Welcome to the club — I bet you’ll love it & congrats about following your idea of success :)

]]> By: older not wiser http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2287 older not wiser Fri, 26 Oct 2007 05:56:11 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2287 Worst Advice Ever: A writer? Well, maybe you could teach English. But, you can't pass math, so you can't go to college. Just take typing, then you can get some kind of job until you get married. They need the college seats for serious students. You'll just have kids anyway, why waster the money on college? Worst Advice Ever: A writer? Well, maybe you could teach English. But, you can’t pass math, so you can’t go to college. Just take typing, then you can get some kind of job until you get married. They need the college seats for serious students. You’ll just have kids anyway, why waster the money on college?

]]> By: Neller http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2272 Neller Thu, 25 Oct 2007 20:22:40 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2272 First, my apologies to Francesca & Plumcake for commenting on their blog...but not about their blog (this time). However, I really would like to thank count sassy & atty04. I'm currently a 2L, and your reactions to the advice you were given are encouraging, particuarly now that I'm having small doubts regarding my decision to leave the working world and put myself (via scads and scads of student loan money) through law school. First, my apologies to Francesca & Plumcake for commenting on their blog…but not about their blog (this time). However, I really would like to thank count sassy & atty04. I’m currently a 2L, and your reactions to the advice you were given are encouraging, particuarly now that I’m having small doubts regarding my decision to leave the working world and put myself (via scads and scads of student loan money) through law school.

]]> By: atty04 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2268 atty04 Thu, 25 Oct 2007 19:15:37 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2268 "Don't take out student loans, you're lucky to be debt free, just get a job" given by everyone when I graduated from law school and wanted to get an LLM in taxation. Followed advice, three years of floundering in a disappointing career later, I'm applying for the LLM program. If I'd taken on the debt, I'd have paid it back by now. Although I do know that I was extraordinarily fortunate to graduate without debt. “Don’t take out student loans, you’re lucky to be debt free, just get a job” given by everyone when I graduated from law school and wanted to get an LLM in taxation. Followed advice, three years of floundering in a disappointing career later, I’m applying for the LLM program. If I’d taken on the debt, I’d have paid it back by now. Although I do know that I was extraordinarily fortunate to graduate without debt.

]]> By: count sassy http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2264 count sassy Thu, 25 Oct 2007 17:59:57 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2007/10/24/the-big-question-dont-tell-your-mother/#comment-2264 Advice: Go to law school. Action: Took said advice. Result: Lots of loan debt. Not practicing law at firm where I'd make $150K+. Actually happy with life even though still in debt. Advice: Go to law school.

Action: Took said advice.

Result: Lots of loan debt. Not practicing law at firm where I’d make $150K+. Actually happy with life even though still in debt.

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