Francesca and Plumcake want to know:
Wearing sleeveless dresses when one has lumpy-squishy upper arms: confident and sassy, or unseemly and unattractive?
Dress available here.
(The lack of a bra is for another discussion.)
UPDATE: It is always a danger, with the weekly Big Question, that we try to keep it short and simple, and in this case Francesca’s intention in asking the question was lost. She has read all the comments so far (the first 21) and wishes to say, first of all, that she plans to address the controversy in a future post.
But mostly, Francesca wishes to apologize to those readers who, like Francesca, have lumpy-squishy arms and whose feelings were hurt either by the question or the comments or both. Francesca and Plumcake have created a space where we can speak openly of our fat, something we all share. But what we do not all share is how we are dealing with it. Some people feel more pain about it than others, some feel more free to be unemotionally critical of themselves and fat generally than others. In trying to help each other look superfantastic, we must be very careful not to be overly forceful in our critiques. Francesca wishes to say that she is very sorry that she created an opening for people’s feelings to be hurt.
The first rule of being superfantastic is to be kind. (And the second is to wear a good bra.)