I’m not saying to just live for the moment and not eat healthfully - I’m saying what good will it do to diet and obsess about weight and have no fun for another sixty years? I’d rather live another fifty HAPPY years than sixty stressed, fragile, unhappy ones!

I’ll be they would have looked at me like I was a freak too - a happy fat girl with two husbands - that can’t be possible!

No white foods? I hadn’t heard that horrible dieting tip since the seventies when everyone became convinced that ‘white’ equalled ‘no nutritional value’. It was really coined to discourage eating lots of processed sugar and encourage eating whole grains, but it led people to believe that there is nothing to be gained from eating the noble and delicious potato…and of course a lot of us noticed that it also discouraged some people from eating other healthy things like bananas, white fish, and parsnips.

Why just the other night, I made a stew which included the aforementioned parsnips and barley, which is also pretty white. The stew, however, was tasty and nutritious, and very low in fat and cholesterol.

I do get annoyed at the ‘but what does your spouse think of this’ because it’s almost invariably pulled out not over something that is culturally supposed to make one’s spouse proud (winning an award, being beautiful, winning the lottery) but when they’ve done something that is culturally shaming (weigh ‘too much’, have success in a field not usually associated with one’s gender, raise rabble over something societally uncomfortable). Nobody asks Brad Pitt how he feels about Angelina Jolie being a critically acclaimed actress. Nobody’s asking Johnny Depp’s wife how she feels about being seen in public with him or whether he’s healthy. Nobody is asking David Bowie how he feels about Iman being one of the top international models of all time. Bill Clinton, on the other hand, regularly gets asked how he feels about the fact that his wife is running for an office he’s held. Why? Because it’s something you’re Not Supposed To Do. This would be just as true if Laura Bush took it into her head to run for president, because it’s a cultural question rather than a political one.

That said, I’m not going to spend a lot of time getting my panties in a bunch over that part. There are way too many other things to be upset about in this world. I just think it’s important to notice how phrases like that educate us about the norms of behavior for a society so we can think more clearly about when and how best to challenge the norms we find inappropriate.

I loved the fact that both husbands seemed fairly amused that their opinions were even being asked. That’s absolutely the reaction Mr. Twistie would have. He’d ask why anyone was asking him when I was right there and perfectly capable of speaking for myself.

These people are fanatics, and like all fanatics, when dealing with the subject of their fanaticism, they have disengaged their brains.

The more I read about this, and the more I study nutrition research that isn’t paid for by huge pharmaceutical companies, conglomerate food producers, or people like Meme, the more I think this whole effort to pathologize fat is a means to justify a long standing hatred and prejudice that needs to die.

I also read about fat people and fashionable clothes. It floored me. Just crush our self-esteem a little more by giving us nothing to wear. *rolls eyes*

I have an issue with the doctor who said “no white food” and included potatoes. If you are eating potatoes with the skins, it’s an extremely healthy food - full of fiber, vitamin C and loaded with potassium. As the old ads in the 70s said “don’t blame the potato.”