Our internet friend Rachel writes:
This isn’t specifically a “big girl” question, but I so value your taste and counsel that you were the first I thought of. I have a dear friend who is recovering from a grueling surgery (having a mass removed from her pineal gland; we’re still waiting to hear if it’s benign); she’s due to be released from the hospital tomorrow and will be chilling at her mom’s for a few weeks to complete her recovery. I want to put together a Care Package of Fabulousness to see her through her long, quiet days at the casa. I’m thinking it’ll include a DVD, a book or two, maybe some yummy teas, cozy socks, and … that’s where I need your help. What little bits of fab would you suggest for a friend who’s taking a few weeks of rest to get her groove back? I’d so appreciate your help.
Thanks in advance, my dears, and stay fabulous!
Ayyyy! Francesca sincerely hopes that Rachel’s friend has the speedy and complete recovery!
She has heard from many friends who were on bed rest and similar situations that though they would never ask to get sick, they found that having a few weeks to think about their lives and where they want to “go with it” was profoundly inspiring and life-altering. May Rachel’s friend make the best emotional and spiritual use of the time and feel physically better quickly!
But remember that the best gift is probably your time: to keep her company, to do chores around the house that her mom can’t get to so easily, to do library runs, to drive her to the doctor, etc. It would also be a way to help her mom, who might feel overwhelmed. Often, when friends ask “Is there anything I can do,” it is hard for the sick person to think of anything, or they are embarrassed to ask for what they really need. But if you say “I’m going to the supermarket, do you want to give me a list of things to pick up?” or “I want to see you; how about we give your mom the night off, and I’ll come over with a casserole and a movie?” then they will accept the help.
Please let us know how your friend is doing!