Comments on: The Big Question: How Long is Too Long? http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/ Fashion, Lifestyle, and Humor for the Plus Sized Woman. Sat, 22 Nov 2008 18:17:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Kelly http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-71522 Kelly Thu, 09 Oct 2008 12:52:22 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-71522 I found your topic of dicussion interesting. I've have a few good friends for 30 years who where their hair long and now their own girls have long hair. They refer to their own hair as their "security blanket" and" trade mark". When we were kids I can understand wanting to wear pig tails, braids, barrets, etc but I personally think past the bra strap looks excessive on a women or even a young lady. People may say it's rude to judge but that's how our brains operate. We use our judgement to function in society. May of us percieve women with long hair as looking a bit unkept and unclean and certainly outdated. Let's be frank. people see playboy bunnies on tv with th long blonde bleached hair and they think I want to look sexy but somehow it just doesn't translate in reality and nearly look half as appealing. Many people do associate the hair style with pologamy and holy rollers. I've heard people throughout my lifetime insinuate very long haired women to be white trash, hilly billies, country bumpkins. I admit it is cruel and mean ,but frankly, it's happening. 99% of the time I would bet the women wearing these styles have no idea whatsoever about how people percieve them strictly based on thier hairstyles. They are so fixated about looking sexy but I often wonder if they are hiding and think their hair defines who they are as women. If you saw a man wearing a beard down to his waist you can not tell me many people wouldn't judge and call him dirty or homeless or think he was hiding. I know sevearl men who tell their women they must wear their hair long bc that is sexy. I think those men have a whole set of issues too long to even address. Dead end hair dragging in the toilet is anything but sexy. and finding one of those long hairs in the kitchen or near a baby is pretty disgusting. I may get crucified for this post but everyone is entitled to an opinion. I found your topic of dicussion interesting. I’ve have a few good friends for 30 years who where their hair long and now their own girls have long hair. They refer to their own hair as their “security blanket” and” trade mark”. When we were kids I can understand wanting to wear pig tails, braids, barrets, etc but I personally think past the bra strap looks excessive on a women or even a young lady. People may say it’s rude to judge but that’s how our brains operate. We use our judgement to function in society. May of us percieve women with long hair as looking a bit unkept and unclean and certainly outdated. Let’s be frank. people see playboy bunnies on tv with th long blonde bleached hair and they think I want to look sexy but somehow it just doesn’t translate in reality and nearly look half as appealing. Many people do associate the hair style with pologamy and holy rollers. I’ve heard people throughout my lifetime insinuate very long haired women to be white trash, hilly billies, country bumpkins. I admit it is cruel and mean ,but frankly, it’s happening. 99% of the time I would bet the women wearing these styles have no idea whatsoever about how people percieve them strictly based on thier hairstyles. They are so fixated about looking sexy but I often wonder if they are hiding and think their hair defines who they are as women. If you saw a man wearing a beard down to his waist you can not tell me many people wouldn’t judge and call him dirty or homeless or think he was hiding. I know sevearl men who tell their women they must wear their hair long bc that is sexy. I think those men have a whole set of issues too long to even address. Dead end hair dragging in the toilet is anything but sexy. and finding one of those long hairs in the kitchen or near a baby is pretty disgusting. I may get crucified for this post but everyone is entitled to an opinion.

]]> By: Ron http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-28156 Ron Tue, 24 Jun 2008 05:46:47 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-28156 My wife is over 50 and has hair past her waist, one length. She is not so crazy to chop an asset that makes her appear 10-15 years younger. No matter what jealous women say! Humph! My wife is over 50 and has hair past her waist, one length. She is not so crazy to chop an asset that makes her appear 10-15 years younger. No matter what jealous women say! Humph!

]]> By: La BellaDonna http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26475 La BellaDonna Thu, 29 May 2008 22:51:43 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26475 I have worn my hair short, mid-length, and in various permutations and colours. I tried, over the course of probably 10 years, to get a perm (I had drawings! Photographs! Clear verbal instructions!) that would give me both the curly hair, and the hairstyle, that I wanted. My hair is now lap-length, and I'm 50. I will wack off the last five inches or so when the cat has been chewing it (!). I wear it in a French braid to work, where I do in fact look professional; it anchors my hats; it anchors hair-pieces for historical work; I can wind it around the strap of a wrestling helmet to keep it out of the way, when necessary; and I can let it down when I choose, for personal occasions. I have no reason to cut it, and, since Plumcake is so adamant against people doing things to please others, I don't have to worry about pleasing her, either. That should make her happy. I have worn my hair short, mid-length, and in various permutations and colours. I tried, over the course of probably 10 years, to get a perm (I had drawings! Photographs! Clear verbal instructions!) that would give me both the curly hair, and the hairstyle, that I wanted.

My hair is now lap-length, and I’m 50. I will wack off the last five inches or so when the cat has been chewing it (!). I wear it in a French braid to work, where I do in fact look professional; it anchors my hats; it anchors hair-pieces for historical work; I can wind it around the strap of a wrestling helmet to keep it out of the way, when necessary; and I can let it down when I choose, for personal occasions. I have no reason to cut it, and, since Plumcake is so adamant against people doing things to please others, I don’t have to worry about pleasing her, either.

That should make her happy.

]]> By: Dent http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26389 Dent Wed, 28 May 2008 14:59:23 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26389 I agree with most sentiments expressed; long hair only looks good if you take care of it. Nothing looks worse than straggly thin wisps of hair going past your waist. And as others have stated, if you need to put up long hair, you can do it just as well with bra-strap length hair than waist length. What I find revolting is the desperate *attachment* some women (or their family/friends...) have for their hair. I was appalled when I watched an episode of What Not to Wear in which the woman absolutely refused to allow Nick to cut her hair. We're talking about a guy who charges hundreds of dollars to normal clients. He knows what he is doing, and without a good hair style your new wardrobe is nothing! Because my hair grows so fast (I shaved my head over three years ago and now it's down to my bra) I have never worried about opting for a radical cut or change in hair style. So it's hard for me to relate to women who fear hair cuts. I suppose if my hair barely grew I might be a bit more hesitant...But even then, it's just hair. A good stylist can work wonders, no matter the length. I agree with most sentiments expressed; long hair only looks good if you take care of it. Nothing looks worse than straggly thin wisps of hair going past your waist. And as others have stated, if you need to put up long hair, you can do it just as well with bra-strap length hair than waist length.

What I find revolting is the desperate *attachment* some women (or their family/friends…) have for their hair. I was appalled when I watched an episode of What Not to Wear in which the woman absolutely refused to allow Nick to cut her hair. We’re talking about a guy who charges hundreds of dollars to normal clients. He knows what he is doing, and without a good hair style your new wardrobe is nothing!

Because my hair grows so fast (I shaved my head over three years ago and now it’s down to my bra) I have never worried about opting for a radical cut or change in hair style. So it’s hard for me to relate to women who fear hair cuts. I suppose if my hair barely grew I might be a bit more hesitant…But even then, it’s just hair. A good stylist can work wonders, no matter the length.

]]> By: Nariya http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26345 Nariya Tue, 27 May 2008 14:00:35 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26345 Haha, what an unexpectedly controversial topic! Being from India, I laugh when you say that long hair can't be stylish; there are so many beautiful examples of it to be seen over there. To me, long hair is gorgeous and timeless. And perhaps long hair being inappropriate for older women is a western thing? Anyway, you are entitled to your opinion, and you are definitely right that uncared-for hair looks bad, no matter what the length. This post has inspired me to double-check how it looks every morning, and make sure I'm not giving long hair a bad name. Thanks! :) Haha, what an unexpectedly controversial topic! Being from India, I laugh when you say that long hair can’t be stylish; there are so many beautiful examples of it to be seen over there. To me, long hair is gorgeous and timeless. And perhaps long hair being inappropriate for older women is a western thing?

Anyway, you are entitled to your opinion, and you are definitely right that uncared-for hair looks bad, no matter what the length. This post has inspired me to double-check how it looks every morning, and make sure I’m not giving long hair a bad name. Thanks! :)

]]> By: dcsurfergirl http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26320 dcsurfergirl Mon, 26 May 2008 19:47:24 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26320 My layered wavy/curly/whatever hair is perilously close to bra band length. I find it's actually easier to care for than short hair. I am more concerned about encountering Plumcake and her murderous rages, especially if I am wearing my hair loose and accessorizing with my "Return to Tiffany" collection jewelry. My layered wavy/curly/whatever hair is perilously close to bra band length. I find it’s actually easier to care for than short hair.

I am more concerned about encountering Plumcake and her murderous rages, especially if I am wearing my hair loose and accessorizing with my “Return to Tiffany” collection jewelry.

]]> By: Kimks http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26291 Kimks Mon, 26 May 2008 02:17:53 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26291 I am growing my hair out for the second time for Locks of Love- I have long, board straight hair that hasn't been bleached so it is perfect for donating. Even with growing it out I still make it to my stylist every 8 weeks for a trim- keep the scraggly's down. I keep it in a decent bun, braid or twist for work and a pony tail for play. I grow it to about waist length, cut it to shoulder length and donate the 18 inches to help kids wthout hair have a wig for self confidence. My Neice, daughter, step daughter and I all do it to do a small part with minnimal effort to improve the lives of kids. We have great hair- we might as well share it. I am growing my hair out for the second time for Locks of Love- I have long, board straight hair that hasn’t been bleached so it is perfect for donating. Even with growing it out I still make it to my stylist every 8 weeks for a trim- keep the scraggly’s down. I keep it in a decent bun, braid or twist for work and a pony tail for play. I grow it to about waist length, cut it to shoulder length and donate the 18 inches to help kids wthout hair have a wig for self confidence. My Neice, daughter, step daughter and I all do it to do a small part with minnimal effort to improve the lives of kids. We have great hair- we might as well share it.

]]> By: KES http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26290 KES Mon, 26 May 2008 02:16:43 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26290 I have about bra-strap length hair, which I'm a little uncomfortable with at this point. It's really awesome hair, which is the problem. It's almost like being pregnant. People just come up to me and touch my hair, because it's long and blond and quite curly. So yeah, to be professional, I wear it up, because I feel like it sometimes just has a personality of its own. I have about bra-strap length hair, which I’m a little uncomfortable with at this point. It’s really awesome hair, which is the problem. It’s almost like being pregnant. People just come up to me and touch my hair, because it’s long and blond and quite curly. So yeah, to be professional, I wear it up, because I feel like it sometimes just has a personality of its own.

]]> By: Dee http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26267 Dee Sun, 25 May 2008 15:29:32 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26267 When I was a little girl (5 or 6), I had long, thick, beautiful hair. As soon as I got glasses and started to look fat (at 7), my mom began cutting it into a Dorothy Hamill (an androgenous short cut). It wasn't a flattering cut for me, and my hair stayed short most of the time until my senior year in high school, when I got contact lenses and started dating. Looking back, I'm tempted to think that my parents went with the low maintenance cut as soon as I stopped being pretty. Why bother with long hair on a chubby, geeky-looking girl? And, I'm sure that was my attitude as well. When I got into size acceptance in my early twenties, one thing I did was grow my hair out and experiment with looking feminine and/or sexy sometimes. It was quite liberating. I'm in my late thirties now, and I usually wear my hair in a shoulder length bob, but occasionally I let it grow out for a while. It's less professional-looking (I usually wear it back in a clip or up in a french twist for work when it's long), but I think long hair is pretty and romantic-looking. I don't see it as being inappropriate for older women. When I was a little girl (5 or 6), I had long, thick, beautiful hair. As soon as I got glasses and started to look fat (at 7), my mom began cutting it into a Dorothy Hamill (an androgenous short cut). It wasn’t a flattering cut for me, and my hair stayed short most of the time until my senior year in high school, when I got contact lenses and started dating. Looking back, I’m tempted to think that my parents went with the low maintenance cut as soon as I stopped being pretty. Why bother with long hair on a chubby, geeky-looking girl? And, I’m sure that was my attitude as well.

When I got into size acceptance in my early twenties, one thing I did was grow my hair out and experiment with looking feminine and/or sexy sometimes. It was quite liberating.

I’m in my late thirties now, and I usually wear my hair in a shoulder length bob, but occasionally I let it grow out for a while. It’s less professional-looking (I usually wear it back in a clip or up in a french twist for work when it’s long), but I think long hair is pretty and romantic-looking. I don’t see it as being inappropriate for older women.

]]> By: dowdydiva http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26251 dowdydiva Sun, 25 May 2008 02:42:12 +0000 http://manolobig.com/2008/05/22/the-big-question-how-long-is-too-long/#comment-26251 ITA with Laura My friend has hair to her hips. It's in great shape, and she wears it cause she loves it long, and she loved that her grandmother wore it long, too. She usually has it in a braid or bun but it's also stunning down. But if she wasn't as good with it as she is, then it wouldn't work. ITA with Laura

My friend has hair to her hips. It’s in great shape, and she wears it cause she loves it long, and she loved that her grandmother wore it long, too. She usually has it in a braid or bun but it’s also stunning down. But if she wasn’t as good with it as she is, then it wouldn’t work.

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