Comments on: The Big Question: Big Boys Edition

By: Radcliffe

Radcliffe — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 15:53:31 +0000

I used to joke that I have a 200 pound minimum, hee hee. I like to be with a man who has a strong physical presence, no matter the height/race/age. I like to look in proportion, and am attracted to big broad shoulders. So, that could be someone 5 feet tall or 6 feet tall, so long as they have the right *oomph*

By: Plumcake

Plumcake — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 19:29:02 +0000

Jeni, just because you’re my Internet Friend doesn’t mean I won’t cut you!

By: Chaser

Chaser — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 08:18:15 +0000

I have little intelligent to say here, actually, as I am not at all visual that way. It’s little things, and I’ve always been attracted to both men and women. It’s the way they smile, or laugh, or their voice; the way they put words together–the capacity to put somebody else’s desires before theirs–the way her hair curls behind her ears, the freckles on her arms, the way he holds your gaze when he talks, the way the light plays off the hair, the wrinkles around the eyes, the graceful, slender fingers, a dimple in the chin, an overbite, a quiet self-assurance, the gentle way he handled an injured cat. Those are the things that have attracted me over the years. Since I suspect everybody in the world of being skinnier than me (or at least everybody in southern California) most I have dated are thinner than me, as is my spouse of 19 years. But I don’t think I required it.

By: Jeni

Jeni — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 05:07:39 +0000

You tell this Andre to come to VA….

I like a larger man! Like a lot of people I have dated pretty much every race, body shape, hair color…etc. Sure, if I was building my perfect man he would be taller then me (I’m 5’10″), muscular but not in a body building/gym rat/can’t wipe my own ass kind of way, red or blond hair and green or blue eyes. Oh and an accent, love the accent! (English and Scottish being my fave) That being said most of the men I date are about my height, brown hair, brown eyes and thin (though they are usually muscular in a wiry way) with no accent besides the generic southern (not even the nice TX lilt).

I like men in general as long as I don’t have to bend over to kiss them (I don’t think I could date someone like 5’5″) then

By: Patia

Patia — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 03:56:00 +0000

I don’t think I would discount a guy just on the basis of him being short or thin or blond, but that said, I LOVE tall, husky, dark-haired men!

Intelligence, however, is non-negotiable.

By: libbyblue

libbyblue — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 03:37:27 +0000

I don’t date any specific body type. I date the guys who are kind and interesting. My first boyfriend was an emaciated raw vegan recovering from chemo (seriously. no exaggeration. did you know you can shred carrots to eat them like spaghetti?). my husband-to-be is fat. definitely fat.

By: Kimiks

Kimiks — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 20:52:08 +0000

I. Like Twistie, dated the Motley Crew of Men before I met my husband- short men, tall men, skinny men, fat men, buff men, soft men, dark men, fair men, the only requirement I had for the men I dated were that they were intelligent, creative, and kind. That being said, I always went absolutely weak in the knees for the darker, taller Spanish and Latin men that were in abundance in my growing up in California and Spain. The accents and the hair and the pure machismo that these men exuded- think Jimmy Smits, Antonio Banderas, Andy Garcia, Prince Phillipe – (Oh My, I think I need a lie down and good drink) . I swore I was going to end up with a Tall hunky Latin Lover who would read me interesting poems in Spanish and roll the R’s in all the right places.

So how did I end up married to a shorter, slighter, fair haired, blue eyed, Scotsmen from Iowa, who cannot read a word of Spanish and thinks that- seriously- the Tax Code is interesting?? Because he treats me way better than I ever thought another human being could treat another person, because every single time he looks at me I melt a little because he has said that I am the most beautiful woman he has ever laid eyes on and even when he is mad at me, or I am not my most attractive, he thinks how lucky he is to have me. I am with him because my husband expects that I will not settle for a life half lived and he encourages me on this crazy ride and enjoys being with me on the journey. I fell for this crazy Scotsman because he really, honestly, loves and accepts me for who I am while at the same time challenges me to become who I want to be. He also really gets that beauty has zip to do with dress size and everything to do with the size of ones heart and the measure of ones character- Got to love a guy who lists Kierkegaard and Martin Luther King as his heroes.

That and my husband is exactly the right size in all the right places- and I have taught him how to roll his R’s in/on all the right places. OHH- and I know what is under the kilt…

I still enjoy looking at a wide variety of men, and the Latin/ Spanish guys will get a second look- but I am going home with the short, blue eyed guy in a skirt with a copy of the tax code under his arm.

By: Kai Jones

Kai Jones — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 18:25:12 +0000

My type is a big-all-over, dark-haired Jewish-looking (Mediterranean) guy who is diffident and funny. But I’ve dated all over the map, because the first attraction isn’t the most important one.

By: Babs

Babs — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 17:31:30 +0000

My preference for body type showed itself while watching the 13th Warrior – at first I was all “Oh, Mr. Banderas!!!” but the minute those big, broad, blonde men showed up on the screen my Norse ancestry grabbed hold of me and I was like “Antonio who?” LOL!

That said, that isn’t my only criteria for dating. I generally like them taller than me (not hard to do at 5’4″) but really, what I’m looking for is a mind that can keep up with mine, a sense of humor and geekiness. Good grooming is important too. Right now I’m dating a skinny guy, a medium guy and a big guy so I clearly do not discriminate. LOL!

By: Chiken

Chiken — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 16:59:27 +0000

I don’t think I’ve ever dated anyone who would qualifiy as even over-weight. Which is strange, given that I am borderline obese by my bmi. My husband is thin and atheletic. You may remember that ridiculous Wall Street Journal article during the election about whether Americans would vote for someone with Obama’s low bmi. I laughed because my DH is exactly Obama’s height and weight — 6’1.5″, 175 lbs. Why have all my men been thin? Coincidence? I’m really not sure….