Dearest Big Willie,
William you are the sweetest thing with two eyebrows on the face of this earth! Thank you so much for the monogrammed set of toothbrushes, I just adore them. I’ve needed a good toiletry set for ages and these are perfect. Now I can keep one at the cathedral and one at Lambeth, so you won’t have to go waking up the curates asking them to run to the corner shop. You’re so thoughtful! The whole thing reminds me of the time we were up all night writing “Canterbury Rules, York Drools” in toothpaste on Archbishop Sentamu’s Daewoo. The look on his face! We should definitely do it again soon…how is Pentecost looking for you? I’d love to express my appreciation in person. Thank you again and give my best to the Queen next time you see her, is she still made at us? I’m so embarrassed. Who would’ve thought palace walls would be so thin.
All my love,
That, my friend is how you write a thank-you note, which you should do. Often. On nice stationery with a proper pen. If you think you can get away without writing thank you notes you are wrong wrong wrongity wrong. Email is handy, the telephone is fun, and texting is convenient but nothing will ever replace the thoughtfully written note of thanks, received in the mail.
Now, the received wisdom is “Nice Girls only use Crane” and rest assured, I love my Crane letterhead, but for notes I’ve been a devotee of the California Classic Frame from Sassy Girl Stationery for years.
And since an order from Sassy Girl usually sets me back less than $60 including embossed envelopes and monogram seals as compared to Crane where fifty embossed note cards would set me back over $300. Crane IS better, but it’s not $240/yr better.
The format for writing a thank you note is as follows:
- Salutation –If you are affectionate with the person, use an affectionate salutation. Otherwise use the appropriate business title and plain old “Dear”.
- Opening Acclimation —This is finesse work and makes the note feel more conversational
- First Thanks —You thank the person for the gift, specifying what it is.
- Express Need — Let them know how your life was just a shell before their gift IF IT’S A BAD GIFT skip expressing need and put something nice about how flattered you are that Auntie Hilda was thinking about you.
- Express intent —What you’re going to DO with the gift.
- Personal Anecdote —Another bit of finesse work. Remind them of a happy time together.
- Invitation —Invite them to keep in touch or have an activity together so you can thank them in person. If this isn’t plausible, at least express a wish.
- Final Thanks —Thank them again and add a little “stinger” at the end to make them smile.
- Closing —Love, Sincerely, whatever works for you and is appropriate.