Don’t Sleep Around.
Okay, I know human sexuality stuff is fraught with peril and honestly I’m just some gal on the internet so you probably shouldn’t let me dictate your intimate interactions BUT I will say this:
Being the fat slut has been done and from what I understand it is really, really hard to rally from that.
At this point you’d probably expect some story ripped from the headlines of my own youth, but actually out of all the many, many questionable choices I made when I was too young to vote, none of them were sexually transmitted. I had a fantastic boyfriend who was my first proper kiss, we dated all through high school and although there was some hanky panky, we abstained.
And you know, I’m glad I did. I’m not saying you should –although you might give it some thought– but I avoided a pitfall a lot of girls, especially big girls, fall into: being easy.
It’s tough being a over-developed and precocious teenager. I looked 20 when I was 13. So do many of you. I had a big sexual appetite, and more importantly I loved the power having sex appeal gave me. And let’s make no mistake: Sex appeal IS power. So yes, Virginia, there IS a Santa Claus and if you let him look down your top he’ll probably give you what you want.
In the short term.
In the long term it’s like drinking sea water when you’re shipwrecked: an incredibly tempting and almost certainly fatal bad idea.
I know it’s nice to be wanted.
I know how great that power feels.
I know what a damn pleasant change it is to be accepted, even temporarily, by the type of guy who makes your life miserable when the sun is up and how tempting it is to say yes, especially because part of you wants to do it too.
Here’s something else I know: I know that girls who learn that sex is the only thing they have to offer a man don’t often end up in the sort of relationships they really want, and why would you do anything that would prevent you from getting what you want?
So be thoughtful about your sexual activity. Not just about safer sex (although ALWAYS practice safer sex) but about what YOU want. What it means now, what it might mean in the future and whether it’s really, truly reflects who you want to be as a person.
Gin and Tonics,