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Thinking About Thanksgiving #3 | Manolo for the Big Girl

Thinking About Thanksgiving #3

Okay, so say it’s getting down to the wire – which it pretty much is for Thanksgiving 2010 – and in spite of my excellent advice two weeks ago, you’re still about to sit down to a holiday dinner with someone who makes your life a waking nightmare.

What do you do? What do you do?

Well, first off, you don’t panic.

Panic never helps.

So here’s what you do while you’re not panicking.

Create a buffer zone.  Do your best to keep someone between you and the person you don’t get along with at all times. The less face time you have with that person, the harder it will be for your day to be ruined. If you can get someone to run interference every time they see your nemesis in your vicinity, so much the better.

Become as zen as you can before the arrival of your personal bete noir. Anything you can do to relax and de-stress before doing battle will help you keep your cool.

Keep the source in mind. When that special person starts driving you to drink, remind yourself that this person always makes you crazy. Try to let go of the annoyances as best you can.

When all else fails, keep detailed notes. Seriously, writers always mine their own lives for ideas. Exaggerate the story, add a bit of trim, color up those adjectives, and consider penning your first screenplay. If nothing else, you can tell your war stories to your friends who will hang on your every word.

Make other arrangements early next time. Remember to book a flight to Hawaii or enter a religious retreat in plenty of time for 2011. Do not allow yourself to be held hostage to someone else’s expectations.

I’ll see you all next saturday. In the meantime, Happy Thanksgiving!

5 Responses to “Thinking About Thanksgiving #3”

  1. La Petite Acadienne November 20, 2010 at 2:11 pm #

    I find that if the person in question is a family member, having non-family members around tends to help as well — people tend to behave a little better when “outsiders” are watching them.

  2. Phyllis November 21, 2010 at 8:52 am #

    I’ve found the perfect answer/comment for these types is ‘Okay’. Practice a deadpan, dry delivery-stops most of them in their tracks. If they are asking questions that you just don’t want to answer, a pleasantly stated ‘Why do you ask?’ usually derails as well.

  3. Twistie November 21, 2010 at 12:17 pm #

    Oh Phyllis, Miss Manners and I love you! That really does work.

  4. EV November 22, 2010 at 1:18 pm #

    So true. Fortunately, everyone in my family knows who the Crazy One is, so I generally just try to bring a good anecdote to fill the awkward silence after she says something ridiculous or mean-spirited. Why should one person be allowed to ruin everyone else’s good time?

  5. Thea November 22, 2010 at 4:01 pm #

    I channel Jeeves when that certain someone has dropped a steaming pile of personal opinion and/or political drivel and say “Yes (insert significant pause) Quite. Now who would like cake.” and change the subject. Repeat as necessary