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August 11, 2008

Naval Academy Reunion Dress!

To the fantastic Francesca!My mom, who is superfantastic on the inside but sometimes a little over-functional on the outside, is going with my dad to his Naval Academy class reunion dinner dance.  The dinner! The dancing! The men formerly in uniform! What is not to love? Yet she is not so excited, because she must now pick out the dress.  She is a petite 14/16 “apple with a waist” (her description) who finds that dresses are almost never large enough in the bust. She is much fun but not much into frills, and has skin that carries off bright colors and black and white equally well; usually not yellow, but she loves green.  In fact I will just attach her photographs. (one is all of our family women but she is the one with the cute butt in the middle, the other is us being very cute together even if I did forget to wear makeup that day)  She has been encouraged by my dad to spend more on a dress than she usually would, which I think she still thinks means less than $100 but he thinks is less than $200.Mostly I just want to help her feel great in the room full of the souped-up trophy wives, since I already know she is pretty foxy but she maybe does not.  I was hoping you might be able to help?? Everyone’s petite sections have vanished and the world of internet shopping is scary and without measurement references, but living in a fairly small town in the south there are not a lot of in-person options.

Thank you so much for any help/inspiration you can offer!!

Much love,

Leah

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Francesca loves that Leah sent the photos, and gave us permission to post them! Indeed all the ladies of Leah’s family are beautiful and superfantastic. (And her mom indeed has the “cute butt,” if she doesn’t mind Francesca saying so.)

As soon as Leah said “green” and “petite” and “Apple,” Francesca’s thoughts turned straight to Igigi.

Yes, yes, Francesca is constantly recommending them for formal occasions. This is because the clothes are beautiful, and because, somehow, magically, even items that look like they would be ill-suited for an Apple, or for a petite girl, manage to look like they were made for just such a woman!

Francesca does not know how this works. She only knows that, as an Apple, she will sometimes try Igigi clothes under the assumption that they will probably have to be returned, and voila! They look amazing.

And their green dresses are such a gorgeous shade of emerald.

“Summer Breeze” Cocktail Dress

“Delicate Lace” Cocktail Dress with Shrug

If your mother would prefer a floor-length gown, the “Dreamy Nights” dress may come to the floor on the Petite woman, and there is the gorgeous “Enchanted Nights” dress, which can be shortened as necessary. From Sydney’s Closet, “Intoxicating” is on sale but there are no returns. It is a mock two-piece, can be shortened, and would lovely on many the Apple.

Leah should remind her mother that the well-endowed chest can be not a liability, but a great asset, one to show off!

Good luck, and please tell us how the dinner goes!

xoxo

August 8, 2008

Purple Power

Filed under: Petite and Plus-Size,What Should I Wear?,You Asked For It — Francesca @ 8:57 am

Dear Francesca, I have been reading your column for several months now.  I am a petite bigger girl; 5’2″ and around a size 18-ish, with an hourglass figure.  My daughter once told me I was not allowed to call myself “fat” when she was about 4 years old; “Mama, I just call you soft.”  *melt*  Such a sweet girl!

I have a bit of a dilemna.  My father is remarrying in early October. My statuesque stepmother-to-be will wear a beautiful Dessy nu-georgette strapless gown in aubergine, and the “wedding party” (my stepsister-to-be and daughter, the maid of honor and flower girl, respectively) will wear Jim Hjelm chiffon gowns in a beautiful shade of purple (“tranquil”).  I would like my siblings and our spouses to fit in with the general color palette.  (Won’t the family pictures look stunning?)  My husband and brothers will be
wearing black suits and shopping for purple tie (and/or shirts), and my sister-in-law will likely shop for a new dress.

I would like to find an attractive tea-length dress, elegant, not too casual, preferably classic in style — able to be worn again.  I’m having trouble figuring out where to look in places that won’t break the bank.  I work full-time and live in a smaller town without many bridal shops.  I am expecting to mail order a dress, hopefully with enough time for alterations.  

If I can find the right dress, I can reuse a pair of beaded black shoes from my brother’s wedding 2 years ago along with a darling black beaded purse I’ve got.

Can you help me find something lovely and flattering?  Am I asking for too much?  I’m worried I won’t find anything reasonable in time.

Thank you for any assistance you can provide!
-Becky 

Dear Becky,

Indeed, the wedding photos will look stunning as you say. Francesca loves purple! She also loves when brides eschew the tradition of wearing a white dress, and instead embrace the colors which make them (and, one hopes, their bridal party) look and feel superfantastic!

Francesca wishes to point out to Becky and her sister-in-law that since the bride has chosen to wear a deep purple, it would be best to avoid similar shades such as eggplant. Just as it is gauche to wear an all-white dress to a white-clad-bride-wedding, so too it would behoove one to allow one’s new stepmother to look unique in the wedding photos.

Francesca will assume that it is OK with the bride for family members who are not technically in the “wedding party” to wear colors in the same palette. It seems reasonable to Francesca for children of the bride and groom to be color-coordinated, but it is always best to check with those are doing the marrying.

So, we are searching for an elegant, tea-length dress, available in size 18, which will work with the “tranquil” dresses without clashing with the aubergine. Francesca is relieved to see that the Becky expects to have to make alterations, as it is probable that any dress we find will have to be shortened. Them’s the breaks.

Here is a lovely cocktail dress in lilac which would work beautifully with Becky’s hourglass figure, and whose black trim would make the black shoes and purse less jarring against the pastel dress:

Here, a similar dress in black and ivory would complement the purple bridal party quite beautifully.

Here, too, is a sweet dress at — believe it or not — Home Shopping Network. With the hourglass figure, it could be worn to great effect with a pretty black belt, and may hit the tea length on the woman who is 5’2.”

At HSN, Francesca also found this fetching number, which, in silver will once again complement the wedding party without trying to matchy-match it. The beaded accessories and elegant earrings and necklace would bring the outfit to an appropriate level of wedding fanciness.

Francesca wishes Becky a good time at her father’s wedding!

xoxo

July 10, 2008

Francesca Hearts New York

As Francesca wraps up her sojourn in the Big Apple, she reflects on the fact that the Raspberry-Mango Chi Chi at The View is incredibly delicious and refreshingly cold, and another Manolo for the Big Girl meet-and-greet will have to take place there, if only for the delicious cocktails. She is saddened that so many valued readers were not able to make it. Who could have foreseen that Christine’s dog would have a highly unfortunate run-in with a stupid boy and a BB gun? It is terrible and Francesca wishes Rosy (the dog) well.

While rushing to an appointment on Manhattan’s Upper West Side,  Francesca noticed a little boutique with clothing for the Big Girl, but was too rushed to write down its name for further research, and now forgets . . . are there any UWS readers who can help? It was on Broadway, some place between 97th and 100th, on the East side of the street. Any details in the comments would be appreciated by all readers in New York, Francesca is sure.

Oh, my, Francesca got so much wonderful shopping done. Francesca loves sales and clearance racks! She found an adorable pink cotton top at Saks Fifth Avenue’s Salon Z department for $32, a cotton-and-gingham polo at Lane Bryant for $5 (count ’em, five dollars), a sweet nightgown and multiple tops and skirts at Talbots Woman Petites, and a gorgeous office-appropriate skirt at Macy’s for just $35. With the money she saved, Francesca has splurged on the slightly outrageous Mozart shoes by Stuart Weitzman, which she will probably wear twice in her life, but which are so much fun to own. It has been a wonderful trip.

June 4, 2008

Good Genes

Filed under: Petite and Plus-Size,Uncategorized — Francesca @ 9:05 am

Today I was sitting at work, staring absently at the old family photo on my desk, and realized that I am shaped exactly like my dear Grand-mere, may she rest in peace. In the photo, we are sitting in almost identical poses, with one hand resting gently atop the other — perhaps because the photographer placed us that way, I do not recall — and even the fat between our wrists and elbows are in the same places, in the same amounts.  We are just about the same height, and have near-identical figures.

Grand-mere was no beauty queen, but she was a strong woman, and an intelligent woman, and a she used to sing me to sleep, and she used to make me delicious crepes every time I came to visit, and I loved her. She died about a year and a half ago, and my eyes mist, still, whenever I think of her, because I miss her so.

One could do worse, than to look like my Grand-mere.

May 21, 2008

Francesca must lie down with a cold cloth on her brow

Filed under: Fashion,Petite and Plus-Size,The Fat's in the Fire — Francesca @ 9:31 am

Francesca knows that you think she is always on top of her to-do list and perfectly motivated and organized all the time, but she has a secret for you: Francesca sometimes — not often, mind you, only once every long while — wastes time on the internet.

One of her favorite destinations is the “What’s New” section at Snopes.com, the site where one may investigate the veracity of internet rumours and odd news stories. Each day, in addition to well-researched information that tells you that, no, Bill Gates will not give you a dollar for each person to whom you forward that email, they post a roundup of strange or silly news from around the world.

Today, two articles caught Francesca’s attention with their references to the Big Girls . . . and made Francesca’s head come oh so very close to exploding! Yes, the Francesca has lost her equanimity! It is an occurrence to cause the concern!

First, is yet another frustrating story about a woman who had a real, live health problem, and was grossly misdiagnosed by her doctor, who saw her fat and decided that losing weight was all she needed to do:

The unidentified woman said after visiting a health clinic to complain about a swollen abdomen, she was allegedly told by a doctor to attempt to lose weight to deal with the problem, the Swedish news agency TT reported Friday.

The woman said she returned to the clinic several other times after the problem persisted and was denied when she asked for an ultrasound.

A private doctor eventually conducted an ultrasound and discovered a cyst inside her abdomen which weighed nearly 18 pounds.

The news agency said the Medical Responsibility Board has since been informed about the woman’s initial doctor, who was a temporary employee at the clinic, and his inaccurate diagnosis.

What most angers Francesca is that when a woman comes back repeatedly asking for an ultrasound, it means that she feels, in her body, that something unusual is happening.  Perhaps she had always been thin, and suddenly gained weight even though she had not altered her eating or exercising routines. Or perhaps she had always been overweight, but this time something was different — she could feel it. Either way, if a woman is insisting that there is something going on, then there very well may be something going on. But the “doctors” at this clinic did not consider that possibility, because obviously if the woman is fat, then all she is is fat. Nothing else about her is important, not even the possibility of a cyst, and not even the possibility that she is intelligent enough to know her own body.

Grrrr!

Second, we have here a sad, sad story about a woman in New Zealand who relied on an oxygen machine to breathe, and who died after the utilities company shut down the electricity at her house:

Muliaga’s husband, Lopaavea, told the court that he contacted Mercury Energy in early May 2007 to try to arrange paying their overdue power bill in installments but was unsuccessful.

He made a payment in May but the power was disconnected eight days later. At the time, he testified, he thought he only owed $26.67.

Mercury Energy said at the time that $130.12 was owed.

An emotional Lopaavea Muliaga said he was at work when the power was cut and arrived home to find his wife dead and two ambulance officers at the house.

He said by the time of her death his overweight wife needed the oxygen machine 16 hours a day to help her breathe.

In the wake of Folole Muliaga’s death, the power company said it would review the way it deals with customers with medical dependencies and those in financial difficulty.

Notice that nowhere does the article state why Ms. Muliaga required an oxygen machine. Perhaps the Associated Press reporter who wrote this story believes that by describing her as overweight, he or she has told us all we need to know. As in, “ah, yes, she was overweight, therefore she her entire respiratory system shut down– because, you know, as soon as your BMI goes into the ‘overweight’ category you only have seconds to live– and therefore she died when the electricity went off.”

Of course, we all know that the vast majority of overweight people can breathe on their own just fine, thank you very much. Ms. Muliaga was not a victim of her fat, she was a victim of whatever profound illness caused her to need the oxygen machine (and of the power company). Even if being overweight is a risk factor for whatever illness it was — and the article does not substantiate this assumption — it still does not tell us anything salient.

What is sad is that so many people think it does, including a reporter and a copy editor at the Associated Press.

Grrrrrr.

Francesca will now uplift herself with  one of these darling, darling cotton skirts, available in Woman and Woman Petite sizes at Talbots:

They are adorned with itsy-bitsy dragonflies, palm trees, or flamingos, and are much more useful and smile-making than the stupid reporters. Francesca hath spoken.

April 8, 2008

Good Deals From Over the Pond

Filed under: Fashion,Petite and Plus-Size,Sales,Women of Great Height — Francesca @ 8:52 am

Francesca wishes to turn our readers’ attention to the sale page at Evans, the plus-size clothing chain in England, which is similar in price-point to Lane Bryant. Few of the items are spectacularly pretty, but there are many good staple items which can come in handy. Many thanks to our internet friends who told Francesca about Evans before she left for London!

Evans has a fairly decent selection in the plus-size “Petite” and “Tall” categories, which Francesca appreciates, being only 5’1″!

Note for American readers: The shipping charge to the USA is only about $20 (presumably per shipment, not per item, but check this.) So if you order a few items, the shipping is worth it. Also remember that sizing works differently in Europe, so use the size chart!

April 7, 2008

Design your own dress

Filed under: Fashion,Petite and Plus-Size,Racktastic,Women of Great Height — Francesca @ 8:36 am

Internet friend Carol has written to tell us about Dress By Design, a website where for $189 you can choose from six dress styles, specify what type of sleeves, neckline, hem length, and material you wish, and have them make a dress to perfectly match your personal measurements! Francesca has not tried it and is therefore interested to hear from those readers who have  . . . on the surface this seems like a useful service for the Big Girl who is an unusual shape (eg much larger up top than on bottom or vice versa, or unusually petite or tall) or who simply has little time to shop in stores.

Carol points out that for $40 extra, the company also offers this service:

We will send you a muslin form of the dress style (sleeveless top through the hips) you would like to order. You can pin the form to your exact fit, send it back to us, and then it will be used by the seamstress to make your dress. We’ll keep this on file for any additional orders.

Happy designing!

xoxo

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